Friday, September 5

good passage to share * by taiwanese writer


我一直覺得,愛情裡最感動人的一句話不是「我愛你」

而是:「我信任你」

信任,一直是愛情裡最重要的元素。也是支撐感情最重要的基礎,一旦感情裡失去了信任,不再相信對方,那麼即使再深的情感都會四分五裂,再也很難修補成原來的模樣。

我發現,現代人的感情觀面臨最大的問題就是「信任」。我們看了太多身邊周遭太多的感情背叛,大家嚷嚷上口的劈腿再也不稀奇,外遇的故事多到聽了早已麻木, 甚至談論出軌的的話題再也不讓你感到訝異……於是,許多人談戀愛時充滿危機意識,無時不感到恐慌,甚至對感情早已充滿不安全感,不斷的查勤、翻箱倒櫃、偷 看對方手機,害怕自己有一天也會成為別人口中的受害者。

他們總是說:「因為我被騙過!」、「我被騙怕了!」、「我不知道該怎麼相信男人/女人!」,甚至更可怕的是,他們再也不相信幸福發生在自己身上的可能。

她們吃過壞男人的虧,再也不相信世界上還有好男人,他們曾經被拒絕,於是不敢再主動去付出愛人,他們曾經玩過,所以不相信還有單純的人與純粹的愛情,他們 被對方騙過,於是總覺得對方說的都是謊言,他們騙過人,所以不相信沒有謊言而可以維持的愛情,他們有過太多失望,他們不敢相信承諾。他們總是遇到會劈腿、 會跟前男/女友糾纏不清的人,或總是搞曖昧的人,於是他們再也不敢相信人。

他們再也不想當勇敢去愛的人,因為他們怕自己會是最受傷的那個人。

但這個世界並不會因為你的害怕而變的更美好。可是,很多幸福的機會卻因為你的害怕而變得更渺小。

更可怕的是,你所害怕的事,往往都是你讓它「夢想成真」!

我總是覺得,現在的人都變的比較膽小。他們在還沒遇到問題就預設太多立場,就像我常聽朋友說,要把最壞的打算都想好,有了心理準備才能堅強的去談戀愛。我當然贊同凡事要做好最壞的打算,但是如果凡事都被你想成最壞的事,會不會即使你遇到好事,也會被你誤認為壞事?

我的朋友最近交了新的男友,但是她卻常常憂慮男友對她不夠好,男友太忙真的只是因為忙碌還只是藉口。她想了好多,因為她曾經受傷過,她說:「我一直害怕自己到底能不能夠擁有幸福?」

我想起在我決定去愛一個人的時候,我也曾想了太多。我總是以為對方應該還有很多約會的對象、認識其他女生的機會,我以為他還跟前女友保持很好的關係,我以 為他不一定想定下來,我以為,他現在並不想交女朋友。我「以為」了太多,「猜測」了太多,最後我受不了跟他敞開心胸,我才發現一切都是我想了太多。

我也常發現身邊的朋友,有時候一時找不到男女朋友、或道聽途說,或誤會,而不小心懷疑對方、誤解對方的意思而爭吵,信任的破裂就像是摔到地上的花瓶,任何被傷害的人都曾經體會那樣的心碎,而情感的裂痕,又要花多少時間將碎片黏回去?黏的回去,又會是從前完整的模樣嗎?

願意無條件的信任與原諒是需要莫大的勇氣。在那過程裡需要多少的淚水、信心喊話、無私的接納,與忍耐的勇氣?

我一直覺得,「信任」是感情理最珍貴的寶藏。

任何不信任的破裂,都需要更多的信任來修復它。所以,請珍惜對方對你無條件的信任,那是最珍貴、最無私的愛,他願意信任你,那不只是他愛你,更是他願意因為愛而接納你犯的任何錯誤,以及你對他的傷害。

請無時無刻都感激那些無條件信任你的人。

然而親愛的,請不要懷疑,也請相信自己絕對是值得被愛,值得擁有幸福的人,你才能勇敢的去追求自己的幸福!


信任是最奢侈的美德,因為信任,我們才相信幸福的可能!

Wednesday, August 27

你所想


近這一兩月壓力也是太大
忙著她的婚禮,英國的遊走,最佳catch flt, 工作的去留
連身體也向我宣泄他們的不滿
背痛,肩痛, 腳痛..
壓力太大,而且實在累

壓力大了,心情自然差了
思想也很難變得很positive.
一個人在outport酒店,對著陌生的床和一袋一袋的戰利品,呆呆望著電視
很迷惘

近這幾天,我知道我真正要什麼的工作 :) (這令我感到興奮)
所以二話不說想定了
可能這份工作就是我所有煩惱的起源

想通了之後
天空藍多了,空氣清新多了,我笑容多了,他的愛多了 :))))
又或者是

所有東西只在乎你所想 :)

Wednesday, August 20

Sunday, August 17

in hong kong finally

由8月31日開始從香港到新加坡, 再回到香港轉機到倫敦
到英國大約留了9天, 再回到香港轉機到杭州
在杭州留了一個星期, 今天回到香港, 馬不停蹄地開始我的工作 - 台北Overnight

離開了香港半個月, 而且也放了也是半個月的假
今天8月17日, 雖然還未能回到家中
但感覺是我回來了

想念細細
明天就可以抱著他 :)

Sunday, August 10

Korean movie - lovers of 6 years

watched this movie on the plane from London to Hong Kong.
its quite embaressing i cried ( quite heavily )during this movie, hopefully the cabin was soo dark so no one can see my tears coming down from my face.hehe

its all about a lovers who spent together for 6 years.
All passion gone, you may say the relationship had been evoluted to another stage but somehow the relationship is not that sweet anymore..

women's complaint & men's not-listening-attitude lead the relationship to be fragile. And its a good moment that those 3rd person come into their life.mm..

i cried alot during the later part of the movie especially when the men start to realize he still in love with his gf whom want to give up the relationship.Man wanna rescue it but the girl think its too late.

the ending is they broke up finally . but after 1 year they stay together again cuz they can forget all the bad from the past & they both know how much they miss each others.however the director want to deliver is another thing cuz the last lyrics she said is the things just keep cycling. the longer they stay together, more bad habit would be come out again. they will start going to complain & argue...and then broke up again....

no one knows this 6-years-lovers whether can going to the end or not...
god knows then

Tuesday, July 29

Gratitude for...

Finally I feel better
So many barriers i had overcomed BADLY for her big day.
Annual Leave , swapping, direct debit, EY/J class Availability, those sucks flights, b bday, UK plan, Hangzhou plan, ticket issue, Family presssure ....everything just keep dragging me back...

thanks god, most of them had been tackled now & 4 more days to go.....

Things i m still concern are:
31st dinner
2nd Aug final approval
high heel for my dress
wedding gift
&
my ultra-long nails.....

p.s. my breakfast time, my most relaxing moment.

Friday, July 25

melbourne time

I m in Melbourne, will leavin less than 10hours
It is a very unplanned trip cuz its standby, i know i have to come to melbourne less than 10hours also , everything being packed in a rush and i realized its winter time in Melbourne during midnight ...

although i really dun want this trip, i have to say is Melbourne is a very relaxing place.
feeling much better than last time, maybe the hotel this time is much far from the main CBD. u can have a walk and take some pics along the Yarra River, its pretty relaxing, much much much better stay in CBD. CBD just like a normal shopping place in HK.....

mm... i have to wake at 4 tmr morning ( thats mean 2am in HK )
so gotta leave now and plan to read and have a sleep before operation... see ya

p.s. the Aussie here seems really afraid of this cold weather , they had a thick coat with scarf...i m just having a trench coat ...

Thursday, July 24

birthday TRIP

my birthday will stay in melbourne from 24 -26
i dun want it, but i can't refuse.

but allowance $1800.
mm...

for the money
so i treat 24Jul 2008 is just a normal day..
26jul 2008 is my day :)

Thursday, July 10

my standard loading



my standard loading:
(1) clothes
(2) underwear
(3) swimwear ( if i go to the outport which have a nice pool or beach)
(4) bag
(5) Camera ( S70 or EOS 400D, depends )
(6) Books
(7) iphone and camera charger
(8) cosmetic & cleansing stuff
(9) yeung mei mei
(10) sleeping pill
(11) 1 more pair of shoes
(12) Jesus's cross
(14) perfume
(15) 1 cup noodle

i m ready to go again, frankfurt this time :) ciao

Wednesday, July 9

2G


i bought 1CD & 2VCDs in HMV in this 2G

CD -Sigur Ros newest album , I m waiting for long
its cover's feeling is really different from before, hope the songs still be my cup of tea

2VCDs - Once & Land of Plenty

But u know, i m still not sure when i will watch it..mm....


my new Moschino :)

Tuesday, June 24

day 7 ** (21st june)

I just have to laugh when I think of some of the crazy things we done together
and they wouldn't have been half the fun with anyone else but you.

Especially on this break.
I love to look back all this time & all the moments spend with you, even those difficult time that we help each other to go thru

I wouldn't trade even one of those memories for anything in the world,
becoz they are so much a part of my life
and so are you.

Saturday, June 21

back home

all letters had been sent already.
from sunday day 1 till day 7, 8 emails had been sent

my dubai trip is almost over, will start going to airport in 2hours
arrive Hong Kong during noon time

i m still struggling what should i do.
Airport ? No Airport ??
Text ? No text ??

mm...
dun know.

Thursday, June 19

can't be control

mm.. my mood still better after i had sent the sms last night
' sorry to text you, i miss you '

i didn't expected i will receive anything.
so as i expected, no reply.

Be positive & have faith :)

this is day 5, thursday....

Wednesday, June 18

Controllable / Uncontrollable

My mood still dropping..
i know what should I do and what should I behave
but i do miss it.

i feel so lonely when I got a suite room in dubai.
why they give me such a big room? i dun want it actually.
i feel bad when the plane start to decend, suddenly i m thinking his voice, the soft voice named me bb.


i went to water park with crews today but i still can't into it.
I laugh i enjoy the place but when I return to a lonely place, sadness come quicker than usual

' when u start plugging the earphone immediately when you get on the crew bus, i know u got something wrong ' one crew Maggie told me.


tonight i really want to send a text.
finally i controlled it

but once when i can control my finger not to type any text, my tears just falling from my face.
useless sha.

Tuesday, June 17

men from mars, women from venus

今天早上一睡醒,在書櫃內取下men from mars, women from venus.
這本書我在五六年前看過一遍
今天看了一點,發現當時仍未參透這書

the differences in the way they react under stress. He believes that many men withdraw until they find a solution to the problem. He refers to this as "retreating into their cave." In some cases they may literally retreat, for example, to the garage or spend time with friends. The point of retreating is to take time to determine a solution. What is known is that men in their caves are not necessarily focused on the problem at hand, many times this is a "time-out" of sorts to allow then to distance themselves from the problems so their brains can focus on something else. This allows them to revisit the problem later with a fresh perspective.

This has historically been hard for women to understand because when they are stressed their natural reaction is to talk about issues in order to find a solution. This leads to a natural dynamic of the man retreating as the woman tries to grow closer. This becomes a major source of conflict between any man and woman.



看著,有點成長
明白了我要怎樣做


我會重新看一遍

Sunday, June 15

sit back & relax




i didn't need any think tank.
just sit back and relax sha

***

當我今早在他家中看到日本東北又發生7級的地震時
我在想地球變得恐怖,大家都不知道下一秒就會發生什麼
看完之後
我只想抱著他

Tuesday, June 3

boring trip

i m in hongkong, back from Bahrain & Singapore

bahrain



bahrain is a quiet trip, not much to do, we can just go to have the lunch and walk around the arabian style market.
weather is too hot, its almost 38degree in the noon time, we both feel fainted when we walked under the sun for 20mins.
stay inside the room and mahjong, or reading alone ( i didnt join those other crew to drink those redwine or gold label which bought from flight )

i did tried those good food like the thai food, indian curry, KFC & Dairy queen
but its nothing special at all, and its a really a boring port